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In other words, however we try, the sexual act cannot be made into an egalitarian pleasuring party. A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts…True authority and true submission are therefore an erotic necessity.”¹ — Doug Wilson

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Here are some links to other blogs and podcasts dealing with this and other issues in more depth:

https://unlockingfemininity.wordpress.com/2012/07/24/2397/

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyfeminism/2012/07/marital-rape-doug-wilson-on-dominance-and-submission-in-the-marriage-bed.html
https://theocast.org/church-discernment-and-purity-culture/

https://bredenhof.ca/2023/07/03/doug-wilson-the-bad/

https://bredenhof.ca/2023/07/10/doug-wilson-the-ugly/

https://rachelgreenmiller.wordpress.com/2015/10/16/nancy-wilson-my-ministry-is-visibly-connected-to-my-husbands-and-is-not-seen-as-a-separate-work/

https://rachelgreenmiller.wordpress.com/2015/09/30/a-question-for-wilson-fans/

https://homeschoolersanonymous.wordpress.com/2015/09/09/sexual-coercion-as-redemptive-nancy-wilson-on-a-wifes-sexual-duties/

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyfeminism/2016/03/evangelical-pastor-doug-wilson-women-who-reject-patriarchy-are-tacitly-accepting-the-propriety-of-rape.html

https://kaeleytrillerharms.substack.com/p/pastor-doug-wilson-above-reproach

https://cryingoutforjustice.blog/2013/12/04/the-teaching-that-a-husbandfather-is-priest-to-his-family-is-unbiblical-and-promotes-abuse-part-3/

https://thewartburgwatch.com/2013/04/05/doug-wilson-on-doing-the-dishes-and-discernment-blogs/

Footnotes

Footnotes

1. Douglas Wilson, Fidelity: How to Be a One-Woman Man, Canon Press, 2012, p. 80–81, Kindle Edition. ↩